1 in 3 women have experienced some form of physical violence and almost half of all women in the US have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (NDVH)
I am a Domestic Violence Survivor and it’s time I share my story.
At the age of 20 I met a man I thought was wonderful in every way. I was naive and had little to no experience. Our relationship was on and off again for a few years, but it wasn’t until after my 22nd birthday that things started to become more serious. He could convince me of anything - that he was telling the truth about where he went that past weekend, that I needed to lose 20 lbs, that I wasn’t doing enough to be everything he wanted, that he was actually 14 years younger than he actually was and that my family was not on my side. He was a narcissist at its finest. Eventually I caught on to his lies, was told of his fake ID, his multiple other women on the side and pulled away....but his manipulation ran deep. He had 2 suicide attempts in the course of a year. I was who he told of his plans and who saved him both times. I sat by his side at the hospital as he barely held on to his life. He used that to keep me emotionally invested. Each one creating a stronger tie with promises of changing. Things didn’t get better. It turned into several attempts to impregnate me without my consent as well as a sexual assault attempt. It took awhile, but finally I left for good after that.
My hope in sharing this is not to get compassion or empathy, but to let any woman currently going through this know that it’s okay to walk away. There are resources to help you and it’s 100% not your fault.
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For the National Domestic Violence Hotline call 1.800.799.7233 or visit thehotline.org